Jar of Mayonnaise?

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Surely, can it get any more exasperating than this??

Maddie has accused David I don't know how many times of not committing, of not making it a proper relationship between them, of only being interested in having an affair, of not taking responsibility etc. etc., then she finds out how much he is indeed dedicated to fatherhood and decides to go back -- and then she starts thinking that by doing exactly what she'd expected from him (taking responsibility, marrying her, settling down) he would become a man she wouldn't want to share her life with? Which makes her back off again.

Doesn't this show more than anything else, that poor david never had a chance to live up to her expectations? No matter what he could have done, it would never have satisfied her.

[Addison's girl]

Despite what we know of David and how ready he was to make that commitment to her she still wasn't sure. Remember her speech to Agnes about the white stuff you put in coffee? And she thought in her twisted mind that in order to leave up to her expectations he would have to change and he would be miserable..and I guess leave her. She was always nervous..always unsure..I don't think she expected that he would be happy as a family man and would eventually tear them apart so better to pull the bandaid off sooner than later...

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Again: her dream tells a different story, I think. There's absolutaly no hint in that dream that she's afraid that David could abandon her, cheat on her or not take his responsibility. That is what confuses me so much! If her dreams showed that she was afraid he would try to be a good husband and father and miserably fail, I could understand her maybe a bit better. But her dream - and thus her subconscious - don't show that at all. On the contrary - in her dream she is the one who is not satisfied with the tamed NSM version of David.

[Addison's girl]

When did she dream of David as a good husband? She dreamed a man that was NOT him was a good husband (not good for me or her as she dreams on)..she didn't show David being a good father and husband. See believed he would change and he would hate it. See how she wants the real David in her steamy dream...but she is afraid that one will eventually leave...not the jar of mayonnaise she is dreaming about...that is NOT David.

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Then she doesn't know what she wants IMO, sorry.

[Addison's girl]

She doesn't LOL I agree.

[Addison's girl]

Actually, she wants hot David with a signed and sealed contract he will never hurt her..and that is impossible. Love means taking chances. She was too scared to take those chances with him. Her feelings must have been very strong to be so afraid.

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Yes!!! Exactly what I think!!! I mean, you can never ever be sure, right? She wanted to be sure? The classic control freak!! Ain't gonna happen, not even with a NSM!! Was she too stupid to realize that? Too stubborn?

These lyrics from The Rose sum her up perfectly, I think:

It's the heart afraid of breaking that never learns to dance
It's the dream afraid of waking that never takes a chance
It's the one who won't be taking who cannot seem to give
It's the soul afraid of dying who never learns to live.

[Addison's girl]

Poor Maddie. What made her that way?

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I just rewatched this (and I'm very glad I wasn't alone ) and I'm still really upset. I really don't care right now what made her like this, but she IS using his guts as a mop. This episode leaves me crying for HIM , not for HER .

[Addison's girl]

Yes, I am angry at her in this episode too. I am also hurting for David. His face when she tells him the baby isn't his..unbelieving, hurt...kicked in the teeth (and lower)